a update that is long time in coming

okay this update is in a long time in coming. i may have told you this before but i am not to sure and i dont want to go back though the months to see. but if i have there is more to it lol. okay back in april we was told that this friend of friend of one of my nieces and nephews was wanting to give up their twins and they wanted to see if we would adopt them. i said yes i didnt have think about it. i didnt have to ask mike about it because i knew we wanted to lol. i told them that just let me know when they wanted to meet up so we could talk and i can get to the adoption agency that said they would help us and get it all started. i waited and waited. i asked my niece if she had heard anything and she asked her friend and they said that their friend was saying they needed more time. and this had done been a month of waiting. and i waited some more and some more and i never heard anything more. you know i am not upset that the birthmother changed her mind. she has that right to. and if she feels like that is what is best for those babies then that is what is best for them. but i think what really upset me the most about this. is that they kept saying they needed more time and no i was not bugging them about this. i gave them time. and i kept given time and they just never said anything to me that they changed their. i just want to take this chance to say this to any birthmothers that is reading this please if you change you mind if it is a private adoption or just something you are just thinking about doing and you know someone that you would like to adopt and then you change you mind after telling them. please please let them know that you change your mind. i promise you that they will understand. yes it will hurt but that hurt will not last as long if you would just tell them. okay now on to another one. well a few months ago (aug to be exact and i think it was around my birthday) i was asked if i wanted to adopt the baby of family member of a friend. and i said she but i would need to know if this is a for sure thing and that both birthparents wanted the baby to be adopted (because some part of me felt like the birthfather didnt want to do that. that he wanted to raise that baby his self). well it has been what 3 months now and i have not heard anything on this one. so it is safe to assume that we are not going to adopt this baby. yes the adoption process is a struggle. but i know in the end it will be worth it all. mike and i have talked about it and we want to give the fertility shots a try. but we are still not giving up our dream of adoption. we will have our little bundle of joy or joys one day. maybe even by this time next year.