I am one in eight

Today starts National Infertility Awareness week and I am here to say that I am One in Eight who has struggled with infertility.  I have struggled with me for nearly 11 years. Even though Mike and I has decided to adopt I still struggle with infertility. I have come to realize that infertility is just part of who I am. Do I wish things was different? Yes I do, Do I wish this on anyone else? that is a big NO no one deserves to go thru infertility no matter what kind of person you are.
There is a few things that you can do that help someone struggling with infertility.
One please do not make anyone struggling with infertility feel like it is their fault. There is nothing that a person does that puts them in this struggle. No God is not punishing them for something so please do not make them feel like it is their  fault. (trust me when I say this that they are already blaming their self in some ways so they do not need you to blame them)
Second please dont make them feel like they should be a ashamed of infertility. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
Third just listen to them when they are talking. They dont need your advice of if you stop trying it will happen. If you have sex on your period it will happen and etc etc.  (If they ask for your advice give it to them but give them advice of things that you know may help them and not some myth.)
Fourth. be understanding when they do not want to celebrate a baby shower or mother's and father's days or etc. They are  not being mean or ungrateful for or what ever you may think they are just sad and need a little time.
Those are some advice to you people in support others with infertility
Now to you in this journey of infertility my advice is to you is dont forget to take time for yourself during this struggle. If you let it take over your life then you are going to lose yourself. Yes it can happen. There for awhile I did let it take over my life in some ways and it did affect me. Also just be there for each other. Dont say I have it worse then you and etc. Each every person who is struggling with infertility has a different journey. Just because it is different doesnt mean that we are not hurting in some ways. Please do not feel ashamed of infertility. It is something not to be ashamed of. I am learning that it is time embrace infertility and not let it take control. If your spouse wont talk to you about the struggle please dont let it upset you as they are not trying to upset you. They may want to be strong for you. Have date nights and not talk about infertility on those date nights.
I will be praying for everyone who is struggling with infertility. Love you all and you are not a lone. I am one in eight.