infertility sucks

i have realized that i hadnt really wrote about infertility in a while. so i thought i would.

yes it sucks and that title is good for this post. i have been seeing where there is more and more people coming out with their infertility issues and i think all of us going thru infertility needs to come out and share our stories and hopefully maybe then we will get more help with buying the fertility treatments. do you know that most insurance will not pay for the fertility treatments at all. there are some that will pay for  some of the fertility treatments but not all them. and from what i am hearing it doesnt pay for iui's or ivf's. well i know my insurance will not pay for those and if i was going to have one of those it would not pay for the fertility drugs that i need.  it will pay for the fertility drugs with we are doing timed intercourse (as we are not going to tell anyone when we going to do this i will tell you to much on that right now lol ( got to keep you in suspense lol )). the way i see it is why should we have to suffer with trying to get pregnant when we really want to be parents and we know that we would make wonderful parents.  why is it that some of theses insurance companies will pay for other things (which i am not saying that they shouldnt pay for other things that you need help with your health) i am just saying why can not they dont help people that is having a hard time with becoming a parent. because most people that is going struggling with infertility  goes into debit just to have their family complete. and what are the people who doesnt own their home to borrow against (yes this also goes for adoption to) or cant get a personal loan for the amount of money that they need are suppose to do. yes they can apply for a grant and do fundraisers but that doesnt mean that they will get the grant or raise enough money from the fundraisers to be about to afford to pay for everything. so why cant the insurance companies start to help people struggling with infertility.

and thing that makes infertility sucks is that there maybe people out who has never had to struggle with getting pregnant or even staying pregnant. and they want to make comments  like it will happen when it is time for you to be parents. it will happen if you relax. it will happen if you just go on to adoption. those comments will and does hurt someone going thru this struggle and it also hurts to see family and friends get pregnant without trying. yes it hurts but after a little time you can be happy for them but it still hurts. i think the ones that actually know what you are going thru and can understand how you feel is the ones going thru their own infertility struggle. not saying that your family or friends that has never had this problem dont mean well because i am sure they do and they just dont know what to say to you so they just come up with something to say and it is usually the wrong thing to say but they try. what they really just need to do is let you vent and be a shoulder to cry on. that is all we need from theses family and friends. we dont need words we just need a hug and a shoulder to cry on and someone to vent to sometimes.

and one more thing that makes infertility suck for me (possibly to others ) is that mike is in the military and we have to put a side doing the fertility treatments a side for when he has a training he has to do for the military (those trainings can last up to a month or longer) or have to stop fertility treatments because he is getting deployed, things like that. and also if you are a military family and your spouse gets deployed you have that fear of what if they never come back and you dont have a little piece of them with you. (yes i have that fear. well truthfully i have that fear even if mike isnt deployed).