things not to say to a infertile couple

i would write about 10 things not to say to a infertile couple but there are more then just 10 things.  i will share with you some of the things people has told me and then share with you some of the things people has shared with some of my friends struggling with infertility.

okay lets see. i have been told to relax and it will happen. hmm you go from months to years trying to have a baby and see if you can relax and see how hard it is. it isnt just about having sex or do you not know that. 
when you stop trying is when it will happen. you know we have put trying to have a baby on hold how many times for deployments and money problems. did it happened then nope it didnt.
it will happen when it is meant to be. so in other words you are saying that it is meant to be for a teenager to have a baby at the age they are at.
if you have sex on your period you will get pregnant. truthfully you not getting pregnant while on your period. yes i am sure that there are some that has been known to ovulate on their periods but most females dont.  females that doesnt have a infertility problem will ovulate 7 days after the last day of their period and 7 days before. at least something around about that time frame.
leave it up to god. do you not think that we are not leaving it up him.  god has a plan for everyone and i really do believe that his plan is for us to try the things we are trying and to adopt also. if he didnt want people to do all they can to have a baby he wouldnt made the doctors that helps infertile couples. sometimes you have to go thru a struggle to see how strong you are. 
oh i also have been made to feel like i shouldnt be sharing our story to everyone. but we are not going to let that stop us as we want to share our story so that way others will know they are not a lone. is that wrong in us.
oh yeah someone actually said this to me one time. infertility is nothing but my imagination. so i am imaging all the problems i having.

that is all the things that has been said to me so far.  here is somethings that has been said to some friends. and what i have found on the internet during my research of infertility.

there are worse things that can happen. (that was said to a friend and i also seen it on another website. ) seriously. how can you say that. yes we already know that there are worse things that can happen but we do not need our journey thru infertility to be minimize to nothing.
they are not meant to be parents. so you think infertile couple are not meant to be parents. that is just so wrong in itself to say. that just makes me wonder if you think that people who has kids then beat the shit out of them is meant to be parents.

here is a website that has some good info on what to not to say and what to do for a infertile couple . http://www.dreamingofdimples.com/2012/04/infertility-etiquette.html